Marriage Material Q&A
March 1, 2010 by Waters Edge
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How soon is too soon to get married? I know several couples who were married in less than 6 months of dating and have been married 25+ years. Then there are some couples who date/court for 3 years and even up getting divorced in less than 5 years.
What does the Bible have to say about marrying someone within a different race?
Is it crazy to believe that you would want to marry a person who you’re talking/courting who is thousands of miles away from you?
We always hear about the argument of sex before marriage. I did a little bit of research and in those days they pushed for no sex before marriage so that the woman would be a virgin (highly prized back then). Would it still be wrong in today’s society to have sex during engagement? Even if its just days before the actual wedding? It feels like everyone is having sex in college. Is it wrong especially if you know they are the one?
what is oneness? does it come through having sex? I heard it comes through physical, emotional, and spiritual connection. If God made us to be one with only one person, and when you date you become in a way “one” with that person through emotional, spiritual, and physical(not sex)connection, then would that be considered marriage in the eyes of God? In this case would a break up be considered divorce?
I’m not sure if this has been asked yet, but is marriage eternal? when you become “one” when you marry, do you “separate” at death? i think most people give marriage the time and attention as if it were eternal. i think our perspectives would change if we knew it was not. we would still love our spouses and serve them like God desires us to, but the call of Jesus on our lives (which has an eternal impact) would be of far greater importance to us.
do you think we can focus too much on how Jesus can help us have a happy marriage, life, bank account, instead of focusing on Jesus himself?
Can a couple continue in their relationship if they have been physical? Does that mean they aren’t meant to be together?
In the Bible it talks about how a man and a woman leave their families and cleave to each other, becoming a new family. What does this look like in reality?
There are so many different family dynamics and different cultures, I just wonder if this concept of husband and wife becoming each others’ family is able to be practiced today – without offending or “being rude” to each partners’ “old” family.
How important is it to read the bible, pray, worship, etc. with someone you are dating?
What are same-sex couples suppose to do?
In dealing with more and more young women, it seems that the stereotypical trend of men being opposed to marriage/commitment is reversing if not at least balancing out. Can we deal with this in the same manner that we deal with a man’s adversity to commitment, or is it best attacked from a different angle?
i.e. How would YOU go about resolving the issue (assuming it is one)?
You have talked about Marriage Material for relationships or people who are engaged, however, what about a person who never knew this prior to a relationship and took it to marriage, only learning they had made a mistake and divorced shortly after, although they were together for 6 years? Does that mean there is no hope for me and I am cursed forever?
You have stated that until marriage happens, anyone who is “dating” should live 2 seperate lives until 2 become 1, so does that mean someone who has been in a relationship for 2+ years still needs to live separate lives even if we know we are getting married in the future? For example..you said phone calls should be limited, praying and bible studies should be separate..is this the same for a relationship or someone who is just “dating?” And Please explain your definition of dating and a relationship.
How are we NOT expected to give 100% in a relationship, when we have a relationship with Jesus? Isn’t a relationship a relationship?
I feel like I am a Proverbs 7 woman. I don’t want to be. How can I change?